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Time's Up: Embracing the Urgency to Connect - blog series

Remember that childhood feeling of summer days stretching endlessly, the sun forever hovering high in the sky? Now, the years blur together, each sunrise a reminder of time's relentless march. I can't help but ask: are we truly living, or just letting life slip through our fingers?

Inspired by a recent article by Sahil Bloom, "How We Spend Our Time," I've been wrestling with this question. He writes that "our lives are defined by the minutes we choose to fill them with." It's a powerful statement that resonates deep within me, especially when I look at the limited time we have with our loved ones. I also listened to Mel Robbin's podcast "This One Study Will Change How You Think About Your Entire Life" (Episode 144) That podcast came during a walk when I was contemplating how I am spending my time with loved ones and the limited resource of time that we all have.

The American Time Use Survey (ATUS) paints a sobering picture. It reveals we have far less time with family, friends, partners, children, colleagues, and even ourselves than we think. We spend hours scrolling through feeds, lost in work routines, or trapped in autopilot mode. The data screams at us: wake up, before it's too late!

Imagine the ache of regret: missed birthdays, fleeting phone calls, and forgotten laughter shared with loved ones. Time is a thief, but it doesn't have to be. We can become its architects, shaping it with intention and purpose.

That's why I'm embarking on a week-long exploration. We'll delve into the ATUS data, confronting the stark reality of how we currently spend our time. But this isn't just about numbers. We'll unearth actionable tips and strategies, practical tools to inject quality and meaning into every interaction with the people who matter most.

Here's a sneak peek at what awaits you:

  • The truth about family: You'll discover how your relationships with loved ones evolve across the decades, offering insights to strengthen connections and cherish fleeting moments.

  • Finding the right person: Forget the fairy tales! I'll reveal the key factors that truly matter when seeking a fulfilling partnership, regardless of your age.

  • The most important decision: It might surprise you, but it's not about career choices or material possessions. This decision holds the power to shape your entire journey and unlock true happiness.

  • A life-changing quiz: Dive into a self-reflection exercise designed to illuminate what truly matters to you, guiding you towards a life aligned with your values and aspirations.

  • Surprising life changes: From the newfound freedom at 18 to the self-discovery of 29, the wisdom of 40, and the acceptance of 70, we'll explore the unexpected shifts that shape your identity and perspective.

This isn't just another self-help blog. This is a journey of exploration, fueled by research, personal reflection, and a touch of humor. We'll delve into the "depressing math" we all need to do regarding family time, offering actionable steps to bridge the gap and build lasting memories.

Join me, and let's unlock the secrets to thriving at every stage of life. Buckle up, because this is going to be a wild ride!

Think of it as a treasure hunt, uncovering hidden gems to enrich our relationships and build a tapestry of meaningful moments. But it's not just about feeling good - it's about leaving a legacy. We can rewrite the story of our days, etching memories of laughter, support, and genuine connection into the hearts of those we love.

Time won't wait. This isn't just an intellectual exercise; it's a call to action. Are you ready to join me on this urgent journey? Let's become the masters of our time, not its victims. Together, we can transform how we spend our days, creating a life that resonates with love, fulfillment, and the joy of connection.

It's time to get intentional. It's time to live. Let's jump in understanding our time with family.

Family Time: A Balancing Act Between Treasure and Hustle

Remember those long evenings filled with family dinners, echoing laughter, and secrets shared under the covers? It feels like a lifetime ago, doesn't it? The truth is, as we navigate adulthood, that time with family often shrinks like a forgotten sweater in the dryer.

I know firsthand. Even though I'm fortunate enough to have my family close by, the daily hustle of work, relationships, and personal pursuits can easily overshadow those precious moments. It's not intentional, but it's a reality we can't ignore. We're all in different stages of life, chasing dreams, building careers, and navigating our own journeys.

But here's the thing that makes this balancing act so poignant: while we're busy living our lives, time with our families is a finite resource. The birthdays, holidays, and shared meals may feel routine now, but the ATUS data is a stark reminder that they're not guaranteed forever.

This isn't about guilt or blame. It's a wake-up call, a gentle nudge to reprioritize the treasure we often take for granted. It's about acknowledging the decline in family time after 20, not as an excuse, but as a motivator to actively bridge the gap. The graph below from the American Time Use Study clearly illustrates the decline after the age of 20.

The truth is, we don't always realize how much we miss these moments until they're gone. As we age, so do our parents and siblings. The vibrant laughter of shared meals might fade, replaced by quieter conversations, limited mobility, or even the bittersweet reality of loss.

I don't want to miss out on that. I don't want to look back with regret, wondering why I didn't prioritize those precious connections when I had the chance.

Here's the truth:

  • Family time is a treasure, not a given. Don't wait for special occasions to connect.

  • The decline is real, but so is the power to change it. Stop letting busy schedules hold you back.

  • Every moment counts. Prioritize quality time, create meaningful connections, and cherish the laughter and shared stories.

The good news? We can own this curve. This week, let's make one simple change. Call your parents, siblings, or any loved one you haven't connected with in a while. It doesn't have to be a grand gesture, just a "Hey, how are you?" to rekindle the connection.

Remember, time waits for no one. Let's not wait for the clock to run out. Let's consciously carve out space for family, embrace the present, and create memories that transcend the limitations of time.

Start today. Connect with your family. Because time, like love, is a precious currency. Let's spend it wisely, together.

Get ready to dive into the wonderful world of friendships! My next blog in the series explores the importance of time spent with friends and how to make the most of it.

If you are stuck in your relationship with time and connection with others and you'd like to chat more how to maximize this precious resource, I'm here for you. Visit to schedule your first breakthrough session...FREE!

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